Joyce Meyer`s sermon "Emotions" Part 2, Enjoying Everyday Life 6 Feb. 2018. (online) Sometimes God asks us to do things that are emotionally difficult to do. Be encouraged to trust God and obey His Word, no matter what He asks of you.
full text Joyce Meyer`s sermon "Emotions" Part 2, Enjoying Everyday Life 6 Feb. 2018
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Joyce Meyer: so, you don't have to feel like doing everything you do and you don't have to want to do everything you do. This is where we come into deeper levels of spiritual maturity where we say, "God, I don't want to and I don't even really think it's so fair that you ask me to, but nevertheless, your will be done and not mine. Watchman nee, who's a great christian writer, said that emotions are the believer's number one enemy. Whoo, they keep people walking in the flesh. They keep people out of the will of God. I think it's just good to take a little time this afternoon just to remember how easily we're led around by our feelings. Do you know how much we tell other people what we think, what we want, and how we feel? "well, Joyce, will you pray for me? I feel like God doesn't love me. Well, Joyce, will you pray for me? I don't feel like God hears my prayers. Well,
Joyce, will you pray for me? I just don't feel like that I can go on." You listen to how often people tell you how they feel. Now, feelings are real and we don't need to deny that we have them, but we do need to deny them the right to manipulate us and control us, right?
Joyce Meyer: is there anybody here today who believes that if you would control your emotions a little bit more and not let them control you as much that your life would get a whole lot better, amen? So, like I said, I need this. Even if you don't, I'll be happy to listen to myself. All right, we cannot always control how we feel, but believe it or not, we can control what we do, amen? You know, I'll just give you an example. My dad abused me. My mother knew it and let him. I went to one of my aunts and uncles for help and they didn't wanna get involved. Now, here I'm this child being sexually abused and all these people that are supposed to love me were hurting me. Now, it was easy to hate them and resent them until I wanted to go deeper in God. And when I made that decision, then I kept coming up against walls of things that--hindrances in my life that, like we said this morning, the chief slinger, the devil, had slung at me. And in order for me to then go on to a next level with God, that thing had to be submitted to God and had to be moved out of my way. Does anybody know what I'm talking about? You cannot have a right relationship with God, and be angry with people, and have bitterness and resentment in your heart. It just will not work. And because there's so many people that hurt us and so many people that don't seem to care about us, I can tell you, forgiveness is something you're gonna have to practice probably almost every single day of your life in some way, shape, or form.
Joyce Meyer: if you're around people, you're gonna have an opportunity to need to forgive people. Okay, so fast-forward all these years. I worked through what i-- the best I knew how to to forgive, but you know, I wanted it more to just be like, "okay, I forgive you. I'm not mad, but please stay out of my life." You know, there's forgiveness at a distance and then there's forgiveness that gets real close and intimate, and that's a whole different story. So, I don't wanna take a long time on this, but ultimately, my dad, my mother, and my aunt, because my aunt and uncle never had any children, and my aunt was my mother's sister, and my uncle was my dad's brother, so there was a very close relationship there, spent a lot of time with my aunt and uncle when I was young. I only have one brother and he--well, he's deceased now, but he couldn't even take care of himself. I needed to take care of him too, so he couldn't help me. So, long story short, I came down to all three of them, my dad, my mom, and my aunt, all three of them needed to be taken care of because they all lived a really long time.
Joyce Meyer: let me tell you, we have a lot of longevity in our bloodline. I'm likely to be around a long time. So, then I see this scripture in timothy that says, "if you have relatives that are in need--"
Joyce Meyer: "and you won't take care of them, then you're worse than an infidel." It doesn't say do it if you feel like it. It doesn't say do it if they've been nice to you. It doesn't say do it if they deserve it. It just says do it. Well, I really wish somebody else, some remote cousin or member of the family somewhere would've stepped up, but nobody did. Now, I'm already so busy in my life, the last thing I have time to do now is take care of three elderly people, 'cause it gets to the point where you gotta get their groceries, you gotta get their grass cut, and it all gets very expensive because they're not making money anymore, they're just costing money. So, I had all three of them on my hands. And I just wanna tell you-- and you know, they've all gone home to be with the Lord. My aunt passed away last year. And you know what, I'm just gonna be very honest with you, because of the relationship that we had throughout my life and because, really, none of them had done anything for me or been there for me when I needed them, it was the most flesh-grating thing that I ever had to do in my life was to spend 15 years making sure all their needs were met. But I'll tell you something, it was probably the most powerful thing that I ever did. And more than anything that God gave me the grace to do, it probably defeated the devil in my life, and no telling.
Joyce Meyer: but I wanna make it clear that I didn't feel like doing it. I didn't wanna do it. So, you don't have to feel like doing everything you do and you don't have to want to do everything you do. This is where we come into deeper levels of spiritual maturity where we say, "God, I don't want to and I don't really even think it's so fair that you ask me to."
Joyce Meyer: "but nevertheless, your will be done and not mine." So, I might as well just throw this out there. You know, maybe you've got parents that didn't treat you right. Just maybe somebody, I don't know. And maybe you don't ever bother to call or you won't do anything for 'em, and well, you know what, maybe this is a wake up call. You don't get to just do what you wanna do if you wanna follow God. You say, "God, what do you want me to do?" And you do what he wants you to do. And you know what, when you start living like that, God's blessings are gonna chase you down and overtake you.
Joyce Meyer: we all come up against things in our life that's like... You ever feel that way, like you're walking into a wall and you just wish God would move it out of the way, but he's not going to? Someway, somehow, you gotta find the right door and walk through it to get to the next level with God. And that door is always some door of obedience that you need to walk through in your life. And even now, I look back at the way I felt, and I mean, I did a lot for them. It was expensive. We went to the nursing home all the time. We made sure they went to the doctor. I did the very best that I could, but I look back now and i--and still I think, you know, I probably could've done a little better. So, I'm just telling you, don't make the wrong choices and then spend half of your life in regret because you can't go back and fix something that you should've done right to start with. Come on, is God speaking to anybody?
Joyce Meyer: watchman nee also said this, and I love this, "he who lives by emotion lives without principle." Wow. And you know what a principle is? It's an accepted rule of action, a course of conduct that you are committed to, or a standard that you live your life by. And I can tell you, this is one of the things that is seriously missing in our society today. Well, there's no absolute truth. Do what you feel like. Everything's relative. You're the most important person on the planet. As long as you're happy, things are good. And that's not the standard that God calls us to live by. We're called to Christ's likeness, and in every area of our life, if we wanna do what's right, we need to check the bible and see how Jesus would've handled that situation.
Joyce Meyer: and see, we can think, "well, I can't, I can't, I can't," but no, let's back up. If you can't, then God wouldn't have told you to, and if he told you to, then you can. You can't do it without him, but you can do it through him, and by his grace, and by his power. Watchman nee wrote a great book. It's pretty thick, but it's really good. If you want some deeper reading, it's called, "the spiritual man." Has anybody read that book? Okay, so, we--and this is just a little section out of the book, and I wanna take the time to read it. It's just a couple paragraphs. "we should remember that in walking after the spirit, all of our actions must be governed by principles, since the spirit has its own laws and principles. To walk by the spirit is to walk according to its laws. With spiritual principles, everything becomes sharply defined. There is a precise standard of right and wrong. If it's yes, then it's yes; if it's no, then it's no. Whether the day is clear or cloudy, if it's no, then it's no. Whether exciting or depressive, if it's no, then it's no. The christian's walk should follow a precise standard." And the word of God must be the standard for our life. Let me say again, and we all want our way, me just as much as anybody else, but it is not God's job to spend all of his time trying to keep us happy.
Joyce Meyer: I don't want you patty-caking this afternoon. I wanna hear some loud clapping, amen? "But if his emotion is not handed over to death, he cannot abide a permanent standard. He will live by the whim of his vacillating feelings and not according to a definite principle. A principled life differs very greatly from an emotional life. Anyone who behaves from emotion cares neither for principle nor for reason, but only for his own feelings. If he's happy or thrilled, he might be led to undertake a certain project, even though he may know deep inside that it's unreasonable. But when he feels cold, or melancholy, or despondent, he won't even so much as fulfill his basic duties, before his feeling fail to support him." Let me get--put that to you in a way that you can understand it. When you're feeling high and good, "oh yes, praise God, I'll commit to that. I can do that." But then when you have kind of a low day, it's like, "well, I don't wanna do that. I'm not gonna do that anymore." You know, it's easy to love people when they're doing what you want. It's harder to love people when they're not doing what you want and maybe they haven't done what you want them to do for a long time. One of the things that God put in my heart that I share a lot with the people that I have the privilege of teaching is that we can feel totally wrong and still, by the grace of God, choose to do what is right.
Joyce Meyer: and you know, some of you, I don't know, maybe some of you this is kind of like a new gate you're standing at today. It kind of might--I don't know, maybe all you've gone to is "bless me" meetings, you know? But I'm interested in helping you not just have victory in the meeting, but to have some victory when you go home and nothing much has changed.
Joyce Meyer: amen? I always tell people, "hey, the conference is great and we'd love to just stay here forever, but we all gotta go home. And some of the same stuff we left is still gonna be there. I do not have a magic message to make all your circumstances disappear, but I do have great messages on how you can change. So, we will commit to things that are totally unreasonable that even way down deep inside we know are silly, and we can think we're gonna pull it off because we're excited that day, and then when those emotions fade, then we no longer wanna do what we said that we were gonna do. "if God's children would pay a little attention to their emotion, they would notice how changeable they are and how dangerous it is, therefore, to walk by them. So often their attitude is, if the word of God agrees with their feelings, they observe it, but if the word does not agree with their feelings, then they simply reject it." It's always interesting for me as a teacher to watch the things that people get excited about when I'm teaching. If it's something that's gonna benefit them, I mean, I can talk about something free from the platform, you would not believe how, I mean, well--normally well-behaved christians can act if you say that you're about to give away free teaching cds. I mean, you bet--you don't wanna be down here in the front because they will attack you to get the free cd.
Joyce Meyer: amen? Or man, if we start throwing stuff out there, whoo, people'll jump over seats, and jump over each other, and whatever just to get this thing free. But if you tell 'em you want them to go buy this, hmm. See, we don't behave nearly as well when it's gonna cost us. I like people that I can tell need what I say. Matter of fact, it's kinda fun when I say it and I can tell it's hurting a little bit. You know why? It may hurt right now, but later, it's gonna make you happy. All right, there have to be definite rights and wrongs. God's word is true no matter how I feel. Okay, the emotional person buys what they can't pay for, and then when they can't pay for it, they go borrow money on another charge card to pay for what they bought on that charge card. I mean, the world has provided us with some of the craziest systems today. I mean, it is unbelievable the debt that people are in because they have purchased things that they don't even know where they're at now, don't use them, and didn't even really want them when they bought 'em. I don't know if you're anything like me. I mean, i--this actually happened to me the other day. I was going through my closet, just looking at different tops. I like to go through and prune my clothes sometimes and give 'em to people, you know, if I'm not using 'em. And so I saw a top, and later on over here, I thought it was the same top. And I thought, "no," and so I took it back over here. I had bought two of the exact same top.
Joyce Meyer: exactly the same. And then when I saw my daughter the next time, she had that top on. I said, "I got two of those." See, we--or sometimes, like, if I need something, I might go buy another one and then find the one I bought a year ago a week later. Have you ever done that? Or you know, we're always gonna keep something in case we need it. Well, no, I'm not gonna give that away. I'm gonna keep that in case I need it. But here's the thing that i've learned. When I do need it, I'm not gonna know what I did with it.
Joyce Meyer: so, if I'm not using it, I might as well bless somebody else with it and trust God to give me what I need when I need it. Wisdom does now what it will be happy with later. That's my definition of what wisdom is. My very own, I made it up. Wisdom does now what it will be happy with later. Well, it's obvious in order to do that that you have to submit your feelings to the spirit of God. The emotional person says things that he later regrets. He gives up on things that he later wishes he would have stuck with. How many of you have ever had a goal to lose 50 pounds, and so you got started, and you're exercising, and you're going along good, and man, you've lost 10 pounds. You're just doing so good. And then somebody shows up with the cake. And so, you think, "well, I just have to eat the cake. I can't stand it." Not that there's anything wrong with having something once in awhile, but here's the thing. You can't have something all the time, you can only have it sometimes. There's certain things that we're not gonna feel good if we do it all the time, we're not gonna look good if we do it all the time, and so we have to have some discipline in our lives. Okay, so then a lot of people have this mentality, "well, I blew it today. I might as well just forget it and just go back to doing what i've done."
Joyce Meyer: now, come on, let's don't be silly. So now you've gained the 10 pounds back plus 5 more. Now you're wishing, "I wish. I wish I would've never given up back over here, because now I gotta start all over again." Can I just tell you, stick with what you're doing right now. Stick with it, and stick with it, and stick with it. And if you have a bad day where you fail, get up the next day and start all over again, and don't let the devil just keep defeating.
Joyce Meyer: you know, I used to give up so quick on exercise. Dave has exercised all of his life. Fifty-five years i've been watching the man exercise. It's been annoying. And finally, I started about 13 years ago, but prior to that, every time I would decide I was gonna get in shape, I wanted to get in shape overnight. And so, I would start doing all this stuff that I didn't even know how to do, and sure enough, the next day I'd be like... Or whatever the case would be, and I would think, "you see, dave, I told you I can't work out. It just doesn't work for me."
Joyce Meyer: well, let me tell you something. Any time you start doing what's right, this is just a little analogy, it's gonna make you a little bit sore somewhere. Amen? But if you stick with it, eventually you'll get the breakthrough and then you won't live in regrets. Let me say again, stick with things. Don't get halfway down the road and give up and go back to the starting line. Some people spend their whole life getting started and never finishing, getting started and never finishing. I believe that God is looking for finishers, people that will go all the way through and do all the he wants them to do.
Joyce Meyer: wisdom thinks before speaking. Okay, when you commit emotionally, you usually end up not keeping your word. That's why, I'll tell you something, to be honest, it's really not wise at all to marry somebody just because they give you goosebumps. How many of you found the goosebumps go away? Somebody was telling me the other day, their son married this girl way too quick. I mean, like, he had problems, she had problems. The last thing they needed to do was give each other problems. But "oh, this is the one, ooh hoo hoo!" You know? Got married, and she said, "I have never seen anybody change so fast as this person did that my son married." As soon as they said, "i do," she became like a different creature.
Joyce Meyer: so, here's the thing. Before you say, "I do," you better make sure that you're not doing it just on goosebumps. Now, you know, the plan today is if you don't like 'em, go get another one, but that's not God's plan, amen? I'm sorry, but it's just not. You get one, you're supposed to keep 'em and make it work. Now, come on, don't get mad at me, it's Bible. I gotta preach the whole thing, not just the parts everybody likes. Well, all of us have emotions and they can dictate our lives if we let them. But we can be secure in who we are and we can learn to follow God's word and not follow how we feel all the time. I believe that all of us wanna have a healthy lifestyle, spirit, soul, and body, and I'm sure that there's at least one area of your life, as well as in mine, that we can make a healthy change. Today, we're offering you, "healthy living: spirit, soul, and body." You can be healthy in every area of your life. That's four teachings, and also a "healthy living" journal. It's got scriptures and it's got places in it for you to record the progress that you're making in every area of your life. Why not just make a college course out of this and be as healthy as you can be in every area of your life? God bless you and have a wonderful day.
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