Joyce Meyer (21-03-2018) The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant - Part 2 - Enjoying Everyday Life. The more we know we've been forgiven, the greater capacity we have to love God! Join Joyce as she shares parables from Jesus about love and forgiveness.
full text "The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant" Part 2 - Enjoying Everyday Life - by Joyce Meyer
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Joyce Meyer: if you spend your life bitter, resentful, angry, and hating people because of something that somebody did to you, it pretty much destroys your life. Unforgiveness also hinders our faith from working in prayer. Well, I mean just these one group of scriptures, Mark 11:23 through 25, should be enough to urge us to just get on our knees and forgive anyone. And you say, "well, I've tried. I've tried and I just can't help how I feel." You can't help how you feel, but the thing you gotta understand about forgiveness is it's not a feeling, it's a decision. You not only decide to forgive, you pray for God to give you the grace to be able to do it. You follow that up by praying for the person. And I can tell you God showed me a long time ago, somebody that you pray for regularly, it is impossible to stay mad at them and keep hating them. Come on, you weren't convinced. Somebody you pray for on a regular basis, you may start out angry at them, you may start out doing it in faith, but eventually if you continue, God will work something in your heart and you will not be able to stay angry at them. And a lot of people try to forgive, but they don't go to the next step and pray. Then the next step, and these are all scriptural, forgive your enemies, pray for them, and bless them. You say, "well, I don't want them to be blessed."
Joyce Meyer: well, I get that. I've told God that. You know, "I'm gonna pray this by faith, but I'm having a hard time wanting you to actually bless them." But here's the thing, and God spoke this to my heart, when you pray for God to bless your enemies, if it's somebody that has truly wronged you, the first thing he will bless them with is seeing what they did and coming to a place of repentance. So, when we pray for God to bless somebody, that's not necessarily praying that they'll have more money or they'll get a better job. We're praying that they will be restored to fellowship with God, that they will see what they did and they'll make lifestyle changes. And then let me just take this one step further because I have found this to be very true in my own life. The next thing that I would do, if you have somebody that would fit in the enemy category, you forgive them, you pray for them, you pray for them to be blessed, and if they have a need--yes, you're saying, "no, don't tell me, no, no, no."
Joyce Meyer: "no, no, no, no." Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Then you help 'em. Ooh, painful. You're like, "well, why should I do that?" Because you're a child of God and that's what he does. He helps people that don't deserve it. He helps people that have ignored him their whole life and then when they need help, cry out to him, he helps. And besides that, if somebody's really treated you bad, they know they did, and they will be totally shocked when you're good to them. And what it does is it breaks the hardness off of their heart and it gives them an opportunity to come to know christ.
Joyce Meyer: "truly I tell you, whoever says to this mountain, be lifted up and thrown into the sea! And does not doubt at all in his heart but believes that what he says will take place, it will be done for him. For this reason I'm telling you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) that it is granted to you, and you will [get it]. And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your father who's in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop." So, what's he saying? When you pray the prayer of faith and you don't doubt, God will answer your prayer. You believe and then you will get it. It doesn't say you'll get it right that minute, but you will get it. There's always some patience involved with faith, some waiting, but we can't leave off that last section. And when you're gonna pray like this, make sure you're not mad at anybody. Come on, make sure you're not mad at anybody. Make sure you're not mad at anybody.
Joyce Meyer: does anybody need this message tonight? Now, another parable, a compassionate master. The king had compassion for david debt that could not be paid. Matthew 18:23 through 27, "therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a human king who wished to settle accounts with his attendants. When he began the accounting, one was brought to him who owed him 10,000 talents [probably $10,000,000], and because he could not pay--" those are the key words in this verse, "he could not pay, he would not pay, he could not pay." See, a lot of times when people have hurt us, we want them to pay us back, but many times they can't give you back what they took. My father sexually abused me, he stole my innocence, he stole my childhood. He could never give me that back. It was gone. He couldn't get it back to me, but God could make me child-like in my 50s and 60s. See, God is the only one that can pay you back for what people have done to you, but he won't if you keep hating them, amen. I not only wanted my dad to pay me back, I tried to make every man in the world pay me back. I had an attitude about men. Come on, ladies. Some of you have been hurt by a man and now you have an attitude toward all men. Come on, I know you're out there. Don't act like you're not. Well, it's not even fair to try to make them pay you for something that somebody else took from you. They can't pay you, only God can pay you. Stop trying to collect from people and go to God. "because he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and his children and everything that he possessed, and payment to be made. So the attendant fell down on his knees, begging him, have patience with me and I'll pay you everything. And his master's heart was moved with compassion, and he released him and forgave him [cancelling] the debt." Now, that's a beautiful story, isn't it? And then there's several verses that I can read you about how God is so merciful and gracious, and God is so quick to forgive and, you know, all the things that he does for us. But then the story continues and it says, "but that same attendant," matthew 18:28, "but that same attendant, as he went out, found one of his fellow attendants who owed him a hundred denarii [about twenty dollars]." So, here's a guy who's been forgiven for $10 million, now he finds a guy that owes him 20 bucks. So, he's making a comparison here, what we need to forgive people for, compared to what I need to forgive you for, the Lord says, is like $10 million compared to $20. "he caught him by the throat and said, pay what you owe me! So his fellow attendant fell down and begged him, give me time, and I'll pay you all!" Now, I want you to watch the dumbness of anger. "but he was unwilling, and he went out and had him put in prison till he should pay the debt." I never saw this before, but you know what I thought today? He threw the guy in prison where he had no hope of making any money or working, so therefore he said, "I'm gonna put you in prison till you pay me back," but there was no way he could pay him back as long as he was in there. Wow, double dumb.
Joyce Meyer: "when his fellow attendants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed, and they went and told everything that had taken place. Then his master called him and said to him, 'you contemptible and wicked servant.'" Wow, does God think we're contemptible and wicked when we refuse to forgive people? "I forgave and cancelled all of your debt because you asked me to. And should you not have had pity and mercy on your fellow attendant, as I had pity and mercy on you?" Come on, we're having a hard time forgiving somebody. These are scriptures that are good. These are go-to scriptures because if you can't convince yourself, the word will convince you. The word has inherent power in it and you need to know scriptures like this or have books full of scriptures like this where you fight the good fight of faith with the word of God. The word of God is the sword of the spirit and it's one of our main weapons against the devil. "and in wrath his master turned him over to the torturers, till he should pay all that he owed. So also my heavenly father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses." So, he's basically saying if you're not gonna forgive, you're gonna be the one that's gonna end up tortured. And how many of you know if you spend your life bitter, resentful, angry, and hating people because of something that somebody did to you, it pretty much destroys your life? Does anybody know that? And some of you have had some terrible things done to you, but you have continued to let that person who hurt you, you continue to let them hurt you over and over and over and over again all these years, and I'm telling you, tonight it's time for you to be free. Tonight it's time for you to make a decision to let it go, give it to God.
Joyce Meyer: make a decision, pray for them, bless them, and if you have opportunity, you say, "well, I just don't know about the helping thing. I just don't know if I can do that." Well, I'm sure if you watch my program much, you've heard my story about my dad, but I'm just gonna real quick, quick, quick tell you. My dad abused me for probably 15 years, hundreds of times. My mother knew he was doing it and just wouldn't deal with because she was afraid that she couldn't take care of me and my brother. She was afraid of the scandal, afraid, afraid, afraid. And her fear not only attempted to ruin my life, it did ruin my brother's life, and it ruined her life. She never had a life. It's funny to me that she had the courage to stay with a man that beat her, abused her, and ran around with other women but did not have the courage to walk away from him. I'll just never quite understand that. But when my parents got older, I didn't--you know, I tried not to have any more to do with him than I had to do. I had prayed the official "i forgive you" prayer.
Joyce Meyer: well, I've forgiven him, but I'll tell ya, I saw him on holidays, and I got out of there as fast as I could. And then God put it on my heart when they got older that we were to bring them to st. Louis where lived 'cause they lived about two and a half hours away. Buy them a house, take care of 'em, make sure they had what they needed, get them to their doctor's appointments, pay somebody to cut the grass, help them get their groceries, on and on and on. Well, to be honest, they were old and I thought, well, I mean, first I said, "no, I rebuke the devil" at first, I said, that's not. I mean, I honestly said there's no way that's God. It cannot be God. It cannot. I mean, I did not want to do it, but we did it, long story. Fifteen years, I took care of them, then they went to assisted living, which we paid for 'cause they didn't have any money. Then they went to nursing home, which we paid for 'cause they didn't have any money. I'm telling you this because I want you to relate. But God gave me the grace to do it. You don't have to like everything that you do, amen?
Joyce Meyer: okay, well I'm gonna leave that there, and I'm gonna go on with this and then I'm gonna connect the dots in this last story here. Love and forgiveness are inseparable. Luke 7:36, "one of the pharisees asked Jesus to dine with him, and he went into the pharisee's house and reclined at table." Now, that would be like us sitting down at table only they actually kind of reclined at table. They had long benches, couch-like things, and they would kind of prop themselves up on one arm and eat. So, here we have this big dinner going on. Now, "behold, a woman of the town who was an especially wicked sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table at the pharisee's house, she brought an alabaster flask of ointment." And it's not in this, these particular verses, but another verse says, "she broke the alabaster jar and poured out the perfume." Can I tell you that you have a lot of sweet stuff on the inside of you, but the flesh has to be broken?
Joyce Meyer: self-will has to be broken, amen? Selfishness has to be broken. "and then standing behind him at his feet, she began weeping, and she was crying profusely, so much that she wet his feet with [her] tears; and she wiped them with the hair of her head and kissed his feet [affectionately] and anointed them with the (perfume]" now, can you imagine a scene like that? I mean, first of all, she was not only just a woman, she was an especially wicked woman. So, when this woman came in, that was bad enough that she came in. "ugh." The religious people, "ugh." Well, we're still the same way. We pray for revival and if we had one, we would have a fit. We wouldn't know what to do with the people who would come to be revived because they wouldn't smell nice. They wouldn't look like you. They wouldn't act like you. And we would go, "ugh," and then pray for revival again next week at prayer meeting, but that's another message. And so, when she went and touched Jesus, and he let her knowing what her occupation was, and very possibly that perfume that she poured on him was earned with money from her occupation, then she lets her hair down and begins to wipe his feet with her hair. Now, in that culture, a woman did not let her hair down, and if she let her hair down in front of another woman, it was grounds for her husband to divorce her because it was seen as a very lewd sexual act to let your hair down in public. So, this woman is just, she's gone. She is so excited about Jesus, she doesn't care what anybody thinks. She lets the hair down, she cries. She kisses his feet. She breaks her oil. She pours it on him. She didn't care what they thought. She didn't care what happened to her. You know why? She was in love with Jesus. "now when the pharisees," verse 39, "who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, if this man were a prophet, he would surely know who and what sort of woman this is who's touching him for she is a notorious sinner (a social outcast, devoted to sin]" but you know what, the funny thing was is Jesus preferred her company over the religious pharisees.
Joyce Meyer: she seemed overwhelmed with emotion. She doesn't care what people think. Next verse, the parable of the two debtors, but it's right on the heel of this one. "and Jesus, replying, said to him, 'simon, I have something to say to you.' And he answered, 'teacher, say it.'" Now, if Jesus is saying something to simon, he's saying it to us here tonight. "'a certain lender of money had two debtors: one owed him a hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they had no means of paying, he freely forgave them both. Now which of them will love him more?' And simon said, 'well, the one, I guess, for whom he forgave and cancelled more.' And Jesus said to him, 'you've decided correctly.' Then turning toward the woman--" get a picture of this scene, "then turning toward the woman, he said to simon, 'do you see this woman? When I came into your house, you gave me no water for my feet--'" which was an insult in those days because they wore sandals, the roads were not paved, and that was one of the things that you always did for a guest and especially one that you honored was you had somebody wash their feet. He didn't even offer him any water. "but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but this woman from the moment I came in has not ceased [intermittently] to kiss my feet. You didn't anoint my head with even a [cheap, ordinary] oil--" which they did back then because of how hot it was and it was refreshing. "but she has anointed my feet with a [costly, and a rare] perfume. Therefore I tell you, her sins, are many, and many [as they are], they are forgiven her."
Joyce Meyer: "because she has loved much. But he who is forgiven little loves little. And he looked at the woman and said, your sins are forgiven! Then those who were at table with him began to say among themselves, who is this who even forgives sins? Jesus said to the woman, your faith has saved you; go in peace [from all the distresses that are experienced as the result of sin]." Okay, if two debtors are forgiven, one is forgiven much more than the other, who's gonna love the most? Well, Jesus is making the connection between love and forgiveness, and I want to present it to you this way, the more God forgives us for, the more we should love him. And I think anybody who's having a hard time really falling in love with Jesus, then you have not really realized what you were like maybe because you're too busy judging everybody else. He's telling--he's putting this in the context. He's trying to teach a lesson about us forgiving other people. All of those parables are there, not just to tell nice stories, so we see that we need to forgive people because he forgives people. And here's what happens, now listen to me, when somebody has really mistreated you and you make that decision to forgive them, to pray for them, to bless them, and to even be willing to help them, if that's something that got puts in front of you, they feel the love of God through you. My father was as mean as any human being could be, didn't care thing about having a relationship with God, made fun of people who went to church and had any kind of relationship with God. But three years after buying him that house, taking care of them, my mother called one day and she said, "your father's been crying for about two weeks. He wants you to come over." Now, never had my father ever apologized to me. He had never admitted what he'd done. He had never taken any responsibility for it and when I came in the house, of course, by then he's really crippled up and he's just moving around. He's crying and he said, "i want to tell you that I'm sorry for what I did to you when you were a little girl."
Joyce Meyer: now, he apologized to dave. He said, "most men would have killed me, all you've ever done is love me." See, people can't-- let me tell ya something, you want to do some heavy duty evangelism? You start forgiving the people that have hurt you the most. [audience applauding] Joyce Meyer: instead of being mad at them because they wouldn't love God like you do and serve God like you do. And I'm not talking about letting people take advantage of you. I'm not talking about not standing up for yourself. I'm trying to show you a spiritual principle here. I asked him if he wanted to be saved, prayed the prayer of salvation with him. He asked if I would baptize him. Ten days later, I baptized him.
Joyce Meyer: when he came up out of the baptismal fount, we took him to-- we got a little church in the inner city called the st. Louis dream center that we started about 16, 17 years ago, and so that's where we did the baptism. When he came out of the baptismal fount, I saw something that I never thought that I would ever see in my whole life. He's hobbling, "praise the Lord, praise the Lord."
Joyce Meyer: how are lost people supposed to feel the love of God if it doesn't come through us? Well, let's grow in spiritual maturity to the point where we can actually say, "it is almost impossible to offend me." You know, when we stay angry, we're giving the enemy an entrance into our lives. Remember, it's impossible to stay angry with someone that you pray for on a regular basis. Today, we're offering you the "fruit of the spirit" action plan. It includes cds, dvds, personal study guide, it's also available as a digital download. I really want you to pray about getting these teachings and really grow in the fruit of the spirit. And I'll be right back with an exciting opportunity I'd like to share with you right after this.
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Joyce Meyer: is there anybody that's bold enough to say, "I don't wanna live a life that I'm just putting up with"? You might not have a good start, but you can have a good finish. But a lot of it is up to you. Do you really love your life, or are you just kind of putting up with it, going through the motions day after day? You know what? If you are, I can help you. I've written a book called "living a life that you love," and with God's help, you can learn to do that. Order your copy today.
Naomi: they look sad and get downhearted and then they look at you--make eye contact and you smile, and they read that smile and then they start smiling. And then the kids all run to you and they smile. When you really experience that, you just--you would-- you're hooked.
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