People Pleasers Part 2 ( Enjoying Everyday Life 23 Jan. 2018 ) - Joyce Meyer (sermon online). What if you stopped listening to the opinions of others and started doing what God's Word says is right? Today, Joyce teaches about the wisdom and rewards of following God.
full textual sermon People Pleasers Part 2, 23 Jan. 2018 - Joyce Meyer
Joyce Meyer: there's a lot of things that we let cling to us, and we let those things hurt us and cause us to make bad decisions. And if somebody rejects you, just shake it off. Just go, "I don't have time to mess with that." You have to have full obedience to God if you wanna fulfill your destiny, no part-time obedience. So, God told him to utterly destroy everything, and he almost did what God told him to, but he kept the king alive. Now verse 9: "Saul and the people," everybody say, "the people."
Joyce Meyer: "Saul and the people spared agag and the best of the sheep, the oxen, the fatlings, the lambs, and all that was good." So they kept the good stuff, got rid of the bad stuff. "and they would not utterly destroy them; but all that was undesirable or worthless they did destroy. Then the word of the Lord came to Samuel, saying, 'i regret making Saul king, because he has turned back from following me and has not performed my commands.' And Samuel was grieved and angry [with Saul], and he cried all night to the Lord." You know, with all my heart, I don't ever want God to look at me and say, "i regret giving you the position that I did to teach my people." And so that means I need to continue doing my very best to always do what I feel that God wants me to do. Verse 12: "when Samuel rose early to meet Saul in the morning, he was told, Saul came to carmel, and behold," now, watch this, "he set up for himself a monument or a trophy [of his victory] and passed on and went down to gilgal." Well, right now, we can see why Saul dared to think that he didn't have to fully obey God. Anybody's who's goin' around building monuments to themselves-- can you imagine if you drove onto our property where our office is, and right at the gate was a huge statue of me?
Joyce Meyer: I mean, I hope you would be bright enough to not go any further if that was the case. Because that would mean that I was so full of myself that it would be dangerous to listen to one thing that I said. I only listen to humble people, people that know what they're not, as well as knowing who they are in Christ. So, he built a monument to himself. I want you to pay attention, verse 13: "and Samuel came to saul," Samuel the prophet, Saul the king, "and Saul said to him, 'blessed are you of the Lord. I have performed what God ordered.'" Do you know that we can be so deceived that we actually can adjust what God told us to do, do part of it, but not all of it, and get ourselves convinced that our plan is better than God's?
Joyce Meyer: you know, deception is a terrible thing, and really, it's something that we should pray against every single day in our lives. The word of God says that "if he did not shorten the days that we live in for the sake of very elect, no man could withstand the deception that's coming on the earth." Be so careful that you don't talk yourself into thinking that wrong things are right. Come on, I think I better say that again.
Joyce Meyer: this is what we've gotta live by, not the world's ideas of what a Christian oughtta look like. "and Samuel said, 'yeah, well if you've done what God told you to, then what means this bleating of the sheep that I'm hearing?'" So, "if you killed 'em all, what am I hearing? Sounds like sheep to me. And Saul said, 'they,'" not i, "they have brought them from the amalekites; for the people," not i, "the people spared the best of the sheep and oxen to sacrifice to the Lord your God," how awful. He's sayin', "okay, God, they kept 'em, but only so they could sacrifice 'em to you." Now they're tryin' to bring God into their plan and play these little psychological games with him, "we only did it for you." "and Samuel said to saul, 'stop!'" Exclamation mark. I don't know, but maybe God is sayin' to somebody here today, or somebody watching or listening, "stop!"
Joyce Meyer: I'll just leave that with you. "'stop! And I will tell you what the Lord said to me tonight.' Saul said to him, 'say on.' Samuel said, 'when you were small in your own sight, you were made the head of the tribe of israel, and God anointed you king.'" It's amazing what God can do with you when you're not full of yourself, when you're willing to give God all the credit. Let me tell you somethin'. Whatever you're good at, whatever I'm good at, it's not even anything to brag about because we only are good at anything because God has gifted us to be good in that area.
Joyce Meyer: that's why it is so silly, and we all do it, I do it, it's so foolish to get aggravated at people who can't do what you can do. "Well, how could you not do that? How could it possibly take you that long to understand that?" Okay, "and the Lord sent you on a mission and said, 'go, and utterly destroy the sinners.'" Verse 19: "'why did you not obey the voice of the Lord, but you swooped down upon the plunder and did evil in the Lord's sight?'" Verse 20: "saul said to samuel, 'yes, I have obeyed the voice of the Lord.'" Verse 21: "'but the people,'" come on, let's stop blamin' our messes on somebody else.
Joyce Meyer: "well, if I was just married to somebody else." "Well, if my kids would just help me more." "well, if I just had more money." "i wouldn't be grouchy if I felt better." Yeah, you would. Verse 23: "rebellion is like the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is the same as idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, he has rejected you from being king." Saul lost the kingdom. He lost the privilege of being king. He lost his God-ordained destiny because he tried to give God a sacrifice instead of obedience. This is an important message. We need to hear more about being obedient than what we do today. It's great to hear that God forgives us, and he does, but he wants us to learn how to be quick to obey him and to obey him fully, no matter what it costs, or what people think, all right?
Joyce Meyer: now, I wanna read verse 24 because I want you to see what the root of all this was with him. "and Saul said to samuel, 'i have sinned;'" finally he gets that, "for I have transgressed the commandment of the Lord and your word, because I feared the people and I obeyed their voice." Saul lost his kingdom because he was afraid of losing the people. He was afraid of losing relationship with them. Now, I want you to listen to what I'm gettin' ready to say. Every time that God is ready to promote you, every time that you are makin' really good progress, I believe, from my experience and what I find in the word, that one of the main things that satan uses against us is rejection from other people.
Joyce Meyer: and I don't have the time to tell you the stories, but I mean, I could go back and tell you every time I was at a place where God was ready to promote me to the next level of my ministry--taught a home Bible study for 5 years, God said, "lay that down." After a while, I went to work at a church. After a while, God sent me out to start doing what I'm doing now, and that's been 30-some odd years ago. But each time, the first time when I started teachin' a little home Bible study, got put out of my church, lost my friends. Same thing the second time when it was time for me to leave the church. Lost a lot of the friends I had at that time. Let me tell ya somethin', people are not always happy for you when you're doing what God is telling you to do.
Joyce Meyer: you almost have to get to the point where you say, "i don't care if Jesus is the only friend i've got in the whole world, I am not going to bow down to the demands of people and let them steal my destiny." Now, I'm just gonna throw this out there because I feel this. I think we need to hear it sometimes. If you work someplace, and you make really great money, and it's a good job, and you have prestige, and you have honor, but you're havin' to compromise morally to keep that job, you're makin' a big mistake 'cause your money's not gonna mean anything to you on judgment day. I know, sometimes this kinda teaching gets us a little bit nervous, but, you know, I'm not called by God to tell you what you wanna hear. I'm called to tell you what you need to hear.
Joyce Meyer: and see, even that, I had to learn a long time ago that if I get up here and just preach what is gonna make me popular with people, whoo, I'm not gonna be doin' it very long. I had to take a chance on losin' a job at one point because the boss wanted me to lie, and there was a lot of reasons why I couldn't lose the job, trust me, a lot of reasons. And I wrestled all night with, "what am I gonna do? What am I gonna do? What am I gonna do?" And I finally had to just make the decision, "you know, if I lose my job, if I lose everything, I can't lie for him. I'm not gonna do that." And I went in and told him that I was a Christian and I said, "i don't wanna lose my job here, but I can't do what you're askin' me to do. I just don't feel like it's right." Well, and me telling him I didn't feel like it was right, I was telling him he was wrong.
Joyce Meyer: oh, I mean, he turned red in the face, and he's shufflin' papers around on his desk, and finally, he just said, "well, just get back out there and go to work." And what it was was somebody, the company owed somebody money. I was the bookkeeper, and he wanted me to do something to their account to make it look like we didn't owe them the money. And so I would have not only been lyin', but helpin' him steal. And by the way, this was way back, before I ever taught my first Bible study. Let me tell ya somethin'. Sometimes God is testing you.
Joyce Meyer: to see if you're somebody that could be promoted, somebody that he could trust on a higher level. Come on, God's got so many amazing things for you. Don't mess it up just by trying to keep something that is not even worth it. Come on, is this helpin' anybody?
Joyce Meyer: so, I was fully expecting him to come out before the day was over and tell me I was fired. About 5 minutes to quitting time, he came out, and he put that person's account on my desk. He said, "well, just send 'em a check. Give 'em their money back." You know what? I ended up getting promoted, promoted, promoted, promoted until nobody in that company other than him had any more authority than me. I was over the truck drivers, the--i mean, everything, and I no more had the education to do it than a man in the moon, but God can anoint you way beyond your level of education.
Joyce Meyer: okay, luke chapter 10: "now after this the Lord chose and appointed seventy other people and he sent them out ahead of him, two by two, into every town and place where he himself was about to come." And he said, "whenever you go into a town and they receive and accept and welcome you, then eat what's set before you; heal the sick, say to them, 'the kingdom of God has come close to you.' But whenever you go into a town and they do not receive and accept and welcome you, go out into its streets and say, 'even the dust of your town that clings to our feet we are wiping off against you.'" Now, there's other--this story's told in some of the other gospels, and you get a little bit somethin' different out of each one. But in essence, he was sending them out to preach ahead of him, to prepare the way of the Lord. And you know, really, that's what every Bible teacher or preacher is doing. We're crying out, just like john the baptist, "prepare the way of the Lord. Get your lives in a condition that's gonna be agreeable to God because he's coming back soon," amen?
Joyce Meyer: so they said, "go and preach, and if they accept you, great. If they don't, then don't let that bother you too much. Just shake it off," come on. Because he said, "you won't run out of towns to preach in until I come back." So, I have a whole message that i've done, haven't done it for a long time called "shake it off." You know, there's a lot of things that we let cling to us, and we let those things hurt us and cause us to make bad decisions. And if somebody rejects you, just shake it off. Just go, "i don't have time to mess with that."
Joyce Meyer: 'cause you know what? If one person rejects you, there's somebody else that will like you. And you really just need to come to the point where you realize that just because somebody rejects you doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. But we feel so wounded by rejection. Well, then it gets really good. Next verse, verse 16 says: "'he who hears and heeds you [disciples] hears and heeds me; and he who slights and rejects you slights and rejects me; and he who slights and rejects me slights and rejects him who sent me.'" So, basically, if I'm preaching up here and I'm doin' what God wants me to do, and I'm preaching a message God wants me to preach, and I'm preaching against sin or against dishonesty or against adultery or whatever it might be, and somebody's bothered by it and they get up and leave, well, in the beginning, oh, that would be so hard for me because I felt so rejected. And then I would say, "well, maybe, you know, am I doin' the wrong thing? Maybe I shouldn't preach." You know, we don't have to start second guessing ourself all the time just because somebody else doesn't clap and cheer for what we do. Come on, somebody needs this today.
Joyce Meyer: and now I can tell you the truth. I don't, I mean, I don't like it if somebody leaves, but I just figure now you're gonna miss a good message, you know? You have to have confidence. If you believe that you are being led by the spirit, then you need to go forward with confidence. And I'm not sayin' that we're the kinda people that can never be corrected, but you can't let everybody else in the world tell you if you're okay or not.
Joyce Meyer: come on, "do I look okay? Is my hair okay? Please, somebody tell me I'm okay." Well, God is sayin', "you're okay. I created you with my own hand in your mother's womb. I fashioned you and formed you. I've given you your personality." Well, I'm havin' more fun that I ought to. Now, even when we do something to please people--which, it's not wrong to wanna please people. It's not wrong at all. I love to please people, and there are times when I will back down from somethin' to keep peace, but it never puts me in a position where, in order to do that, I'm disobeying God. I want you to see the fine line of what I'm talkin' about here today. By all means, please people. Do as much as you can for other people, serve people. And you don't even have to want to do everything that you do. What you do is you follow your heart, and if it's somethin' you feel like God would have you do, then you do it. But when we do things for other people, we always need to make sure that our motive is right in what we're doing, that we're not just doing it to have them think well of us, or so we'll be in some certain group or some certain place of favor. Matthew 6 talks about that plainly. I'll just read ya a couple of verses, verse 1: "'take care not to do your good deeds publicly or before men, in order to be seen by them; otherwise you won't have any reward [waiting for you] in heaven. When you give to the poor, don't blow a trumpet, as the hypocrites in the synagogues and the streets like to do, that they may be recognized and honored by men. I tell you, they have their reward in full already.'" When we do things to be seen of men, we're trying to make a favorable impression on them, hoping they will admire and accept us, and that's not what God wants us to do. If I do what I believe that God wants me to do, I can trust him to give me favor with you, and God can make you like me, whether you want to or not.
Joyce Meyer: see, some of you wonder why you like me. Well, that's it. God's given you no choice. All over the Bible, it tells us to live to please God. Colossians 1:10: "that you might walk [live and conduct yourselves] in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him and desiring to please him in all things." Ephesians 5:10: "try to learn [in your experience] what is pleasing to the Lord [let your life be a constant proof of what is most acceptable to him]." Hebrews 11:6: "without faith, it's impossible to please God." See, I wrote down here, "we should be sure that what we do is done by faith, and not because of the fear of man's anger or disapproval." All right, does anybody here today have the disease to please?
Joyce Meyer: some of you look like you really need this, but it's just wearin' you out just havin' to even think about everything you may have to change when you leave here. You know what? When you've formed a habit of giving other people their way all the time, I'm gonna be honest and tell ya, it's not gonna be an easy habit to break. And not only that, it'll even be hard on the other people, so you might have to--let's just say that you've got a family that's just used to you doin' all the work while they sit around and do nothin'.
Joyce Meyer: yeah, well, some of you are clappin'. Some of you want to, but you don't. You know, instead of just goin' home and startin' to act like some kind of an angry army sergeant, you might need to say, "you know what? I just need to share somethin' with you guys. I realize that I really have not been listening to God. I've been doin' everything just to make sure that you're happy, and I really feel like God wants me to start takin' some time for myself and standin' up for myself." And, you know, they won't like it, but let me tell ya somethin', if somebody really loves you, I mean, really, really loves you, they're gonna want you to follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit.
Joyce Meyer: okay, so let's ask a few questions here. You have the disease to please if you can't say, "no," without feeling bad about it. Are there times when you sacrifice and do things for other people because you feel like you'd be selfish to say, "no"? You should see some of the way some of you guys are lookin'. It's like…
Joyce Meyer: well, insecurity is the root cause of the disease to please. If you're secure, you can make decisions that you believe God approves of, whether the people like it or not. Being a people pleaser causes a lot of anxiety because most of the time, if you're a people pleaser, you will end up overloading your schedule and your life because everybody expects something out of you, and they all expect something different.
Joyce Meyer: well, don't let the fear of man keep you from your God-given destiny. Focus on pleasing God and obeying him fully, no matter what the cost. Today, we're offering you a small but a powerful book called "the approval fix: how to break free from people pleasing," and six teachings called, "i am determined." You know, I think if you're determined, and you refuse to give up, you are definitely gonna break through to victory in your life. So, be firm, be steadfast, and keep on keeping on until victory is yours. God bless you, and have a wonderful day. Announcer: discover how to break free from people pleasing in Joyce Meyer's book "the approval fix."
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Joyce Meyer: all we did was work. We worked, we worked, we worked. We were out every night doing a meeting somewhere. We were in the office all day. And you might wonder where our kids are at during all this time. So, just for the sake of people listening, I don't want everybody to think we just abandoned our kids and ignored them. You know, we still took good care of our children. They were, three of them were in high school. One of 'em had graduated, and he went off to Bible school in florida, and then he eventually came back to work with us. And we had our little boy, who, you know, we talked about was the baby earlier. And he went to school at one of the Christian schools. And so i'd get him up in the morning, get him dressed, take him to school, go pick him up after school, do homework, go to.
Ginger: so, you're still in the midst of life with all of this.
Joyce Meyer: yeah, when we were traveling, we did have somebody that offered to help with our kids, but we didn't travel for long periods of time then. We'd go out and come back, or be gone 2 days and come back. And then we took him with us a lot, as much as we could. Dave: a lot of our trips were 1 day. We'd go out, we'd do the meeting, and we'd come back that same night. You know, do the meeting that evening and drive back that same night, which was long days.
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